You're at a crossroads. Your mom isn’t safe to live at home alone anymore, or your dad has difficulty taking care of himself since your mom passed away. Now what? For many, the thought of family caregiving is a potential option. But, it’s a big commitment. Take into consideration these pros and cons when making your decision.
As your parents age, you might begin to wonder when it may be time to consider whether to move a loved one into assisted living. Although every situation is different, there are some telling signs that your loved one should no longer be living alone. But even once you’ve determined it might be time for assisted living, it can be hard to convince your parents it’s the right time. When it’s time to talk with your loved ones about moving into assisted living, here are four situations when it helps to get their doctor involved and how to talk to your parent’s doctor when you do.
A legacy is a gift or a bequest. And although most people may think in terms of monetary bequests in a will or trust, a nonmonetary legacy may exist while a person is still alive and continue after their death.
Caregiving can impact every facet of your life and cause enormous stress. You may be your parent’s sole caregiver, helping them with housework, transportation, dressing, and hygiene. On the other hand, caregiving may be as simple as calling mom or dad a couple of times a week at their residence in an assisted living community. No matter how time-consuming or easy your caregiving responsibilities, it’s always a good idea to become involved with a caregiver support group.
You love your parents. But the Sunday afternoons you used to spend eating dinner and catching up are now taken up with you or your spouse shoveling the driveway or mowing the lawn.
Instead of your dad calling you to ask about your day, he calls to ask you to pick up some prescriptions.
You’ve taken to checking their refrigerator each time you go over, because they not only have expired food in there, they’re eating it.
The call from the emergency room to your workplace has already occurred once when your mom became dehydrated from the flu. You’re already dreading another call, which you fear could come at any time.
Your amazing parents, who took care of you when you were a child, need more help than you can provide.
Have you ever hesitated to take your mom or dad along for a family activity because you were concerned about their health? If your parent needs oxygen or has difficulty walking, or has serious medical issues, you may be concerned that your planned activity may be too much for them.
When a parent or spouse falls ill, your first instinct is to take care of them. After all, you love them, and you want what’s best for them. But is taking care of their physical, emotional, and financial needs best for you and your relationship?
You made plans to visit your mom and dad. It doesn’t matter whether it was their birthday or a holiday or just a plain old visit, but you aren’t going to be able to make it. Even before they retired, they looked forward to seeing you and the grandkids. You know your visit was going to be the highlight of their week.
When you live in the north, the first nice day lures residents outdoors. We don’t even wait for spring. We walk our dogs, mow our lawns, plant seeds, take walks and enjoy the weather.
However, sometimes, as we grow older, we lose the urge to bask in the sun and smell the grass growing. That’s not good for our health. It’s even worse for the health of our parents.
You’re a caregiver. You send care packages to your child in college. You watch your grandchildren. You have a loving relationship with your spouse. And you help your parents now that they’re growing older.