Is Caregiving Ruining Your Relationships?

Posted by The Arbors on Jun 15, 2017 2:00:00 PM

When a parent or spouse falls ill, your first instinct is to take care of them. After all, you love them, and you want what’s best for them. But is taking care of their physical, emotional, and financial needs best for you and your relationship?

Cost of Caregiving

Caregiving places financial, emotional, and physical stress on the caregiver.

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Make Your Senior Parent's Day When You Can't Visit

Posted by The Arbors on May 25, 2017 2:00:00 PM

You made plans to visit your mom and dad. It doesn’t matter whether it was their birthday or a holiday or just a plain old visit, but you aren’t going to be able to make it. Even before they retired, they looked forward to seeing you and the grandkids. You know your visit was going to be the highlight of their week.


How do you show you care from a distance?


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Topics: Caregiving

Spring Activities for Seniors

Posted by The Arbors on May 9, 2017 2:00:00 PM

When you live in the north, the first nice day lures residents outdoors. We don’t even wait for spring. We walk our dogs, mow our lawns, plant seeds, take walks and enjoy the weather.

However, sometimes, as we grow older, we lose the urge to bask in the sun and smell the grass growing. That’s not good for our health. It’s even worse for the health of our parents.


Where can my parent enjoy bowling, movie nights, shopping outings, bus trips and spa days?


We’ve frequently been told that it’s not a good idea for older people to go outdoors, because of the risk of skin cancer or the risk of medication-caused sunburn. However, everyone needs some sunlight, and older people need more to generate vitamin D.

People over the age of 50 have an increased risk of vitamin D deficiency (link to sunlight blog). The best way to get vitamin D is through 10 to 15 minutes of sunlight before 10 o’clock a couple of times a week.

Sunlight also stimulates the production of endorphins, which makes everyone happier.

Science has proven that being in nature, even if it’s a community garden or a nearby park, benefits everyone. Contact with the natural environment increases attention, reduces stress, boosts positive emotions and, when done with others, promotes social engagement and support.

Numerous studies have focused on the advantages older adults receive from contact with nature. “We zoomed in to everyday life for seniors between the ages of 65 and 86. We discovered how a relatively mundane experience, such as hearing the sound of water or a bee buzzing among flowers, can have a tremendous impact on overall health,” said one study’s lead author, Jessica Finlay.

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10 Signs Caregiving Is Stressing You Out

Posted by The Arbors on Apr 25, 2017 2:00:00 PM

You’re a caregiver. You send care packages to your child in college. You watch your grandchildren. You have a loving relationship with your spouse. And you help your parents now that they’re growing older.

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Are You Your Mom’s Only Friend?

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 23, 2017 2:00:00 PM

Does this sound like your mom?

  • She rarely leaves the house.
  • Few people visit her.
  • She never talks to you about her friends.
  • She puts herself down.
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Topics: Caregiving

Stop Denying Your Parent's Inevitable Changes

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 16, 2017 2:00:00 PM

Our parents are amazing. They are the template upon which we model ourselves. We always want to be as strong as dad or as skilled as mom.

When we see our parents every day, we don’t notice subtle changes. Mom burns dinner more often. Dad decides to shut down his shop in the garage and store his car there. Are you denying your parents’ inevitable changes?

What is denial?

It’s easy to slip into a state of denial. Denial includes refusing to recognize a stressful situation, avoiding facing facts, and minimizing consequences.

Denial has its uses. “Being in denial gives your mind the opportunity to unconsciously absorb shocking or distressing information at a pace that won't send you into a psychological tailspin,” according to the Mayo Clinic.

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Topics: Future Planning, Caregiving

How Does Grief Affect Your Health?

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 14, 2017 2:25:00 PM

We all suffer from bereavement at one time or another.

Your pet dies. You lose a job. Your parent dies. Eventually, everyone we love dies.

You weep…

However, that’s not all that happens when you experience grief.

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Topics: Caregiving, Senior Health

Caregiving: 15 Ways to Avoid Role Reversal

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 11, 2017 9:00:00 AM

Watching a parent lose his or her independence can be traumatic for an adult child. As children, we saw our parents as the smartest, strongest people in our world.

Now, you not only take care of your parents’ finances, you might actually have to help them walk, eat and use the toilet, much as they helped you when you were young. The change is difficult for many to comprehend

"We've witnessed our parents' decision making our whole lives, important decisions about us and themselves. Then their decision making becomes impaired and we end up making those decisions for them. Even if we rarely doubt ourselves when making decisions for our own children, making decisions while caring for elderly parents remains inherently ambiguous,” explains geriatric internist Dr. Elizabeth Kiyasu.

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How to Keep Your Job While Caregiving

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 9, 2017 2:30:00 PM

You are not alone.

  • Approximately 40 million Americans have provided unpaid care to an adult during the last year.
  • Caregivers average 24.4 hours a week providing care to their loved one. 23% spend 41 hours or more providing care.
  • 40% of caregivers report a high “burden of care”. Burden of care describes the physical, emotional, social, mental and financial problems of caregivers.
  • 60% of caregivers have a job.
  • 70% of working caregivers suffer problems at work because of their dual roles.
  • 69% of working caregivers report they had to rearrange their work schedule, decrease their hours, or take an unpaid leave to meet their caregiving responsibilities
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Topics: Mental health, Caregiving

Send a Card to a Friend Day (February 7th)

Posted by The Arbors on Feb 7, 2017 2:00:00 PM

National Send a Card to a Friend Day is February 7.

It’s just another attempt by Hallmark, American Beauty and other greeting card manufacturers to make some money, right?

Well, yes. Nevertheless, sending a card to a loved one benefits the sender and the recipient.

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Topics: Caregiving, Senior Health

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