Coming to the decision that it’s time for an elderly parent to go into an assisted living community is not an easy one. Not for the adult child, who has to admit that the person who symbolized strength for them since birth can no longer take care of himself or herself. Nor for the parent, whose lifetime of independence feels threatened.
Managing that passage from “Everything is fine” to “I’m willing to accept help” can be difficult, and it’s no wonder that parents can sometimes get resistant and angry along the way.
Understanding the source of their resistance and ways to overcome that can help adult children guide their parents toward accepting the help they need on their own terms.